By Dr. Dorree Lynn for The Island Connection
When it comes to aging and sex, aware of it or not, like it or not, we have become our own pioneers.
While some of us look into the mirror and see a facsimile of our parents or grandparents, others look quite different from those generations. Perhaps some of this is due to ever-increasing cosmetic procedures, or, more probably, it’s because more of us are eating well, exercising and in general taking better care of ourselves. Many of us visually appear and act younger than previous generations did at our age.
However, we look or act, it is indisputable that we are living longer, healthier and more active lives than any generation before us. A man reaching 65 today can expect to live to age 84, and a woman to almost 87. Most babies born in 1900 didn’t live past 50. Not only that, a majority of us are sexually active, either alone or with a partner.
While we had a paucity of role models from previous generations showing us how to stay active and live with vitality, sex was a taboo. Too few have paved the way for open talk about sex at midlife and beyond, much less provided detail about how to continue to enjoy an active sexual life. So, once again, as we were in our youth, we are pioneers as we explore our own sexuality. We have the chance, perhaps even the responsibility, to become examples and mentors for those generations following us. We have grown into becoming the role models we once sought.
Unlike the date listed on a milk bottle, sex has no expiration date.
I’ll give you many more tips if you continue to read this column in the new year. Remember: Your brain is your largest sex organ. Change your attitude and often your body will follow.
Join me in 2020 for more advice on dating, sex, love and spirit. Meanwhile, you can always read my book, “Sex for Grown-Ups: Dr. Dorree Reveals the Truths, Lies and Must-Tries for Great Sex after 50.”
Best wishes for a kind, joyous, growing and fulfilling 2020.